Married life has delivered a cultural shock to my system as many of the things I had been told to do in my marriage were not going to get me the results I needed.
I had been told to dominate my spouse, punish my children, be feared by my family, and be the sole bread winner.
They (the elders around me and my peers) said I was the overall head of the family and so I had led even in areas where I was clueless.
In order to be able to manage my marriage to be free from tension and infidelity, I had to make a lot of mistakes, unlearn many concepts, and abandon many non-practical traditions.
I made structural adjustments to my thinking process to free myself from cultural expectations, religious doctrines, traditional expectations, and general notions of feminine and masculine stereotypes.
Why is it that our formal and civic educational systems don’t focus on teaching us rightly about relationships?
Love and marriage is not taught in schools or spoken about at home. Children are forbidden from talking about sex, intimacy, and romance.
They are encouraged or made to close their eyes to a couple kissing on television. They are forbidden to ask questions about these subjects.
When they find the courage to ask questions, the answers the adults give are usually vague, hypocritical or misleading.
Isn’t evolution about teaching our children the truth which we didn’t know when we were kids?
Respectfully, I think we need to change this course of action. We can all learn more about how to find and maintain lasting love relationships.
Families are not going to thrive if we continue to have little-to-no conversations about marriage, money, emotional intelligence, sex, awareness, respect for the feminine and all these other areas that affect most relationships.
My wife and I have been working on a project documenting our experiences and ideas into a book for all who wish to enjoy marriage and romantic relationships with the freedom of choice. This has been an exciting exercise as it has afforded us the opportunity to reflect, learn, and grow.
In the coming days, we’ll be sharing more about this book titled LOVE LOCKED DOWN.
In the meantime, I’ll like to know a few things:
- 1. Where did you learn most of the things you know about love and relationships?
- 2. Have you ever read a book on love and relationships?
- 3. What topic in this area would you like to learn more about?
Author: Okyeame Kwame — an award-winning Ghanaian rapper, songwriter, singer, and entrepreneur.